Contrary to what you may think, good
executives don’t want to be worshipped. – Howard Behar
Everyone has
leaders they respect and admire. I know I do. Along my journey I’ve been
privileged to meet some rather interesting people. Included on the list are
four U.S. Presidents and other political figures, famous athletes, actors,
musicians, and authors. Some had large egos while others came across as more
grounded and down to earth. While the trajectory of each person’s career path
took them to differing places of fame and work they each embraced their talents
and made the most of it.
Within your
business or organization are leaders who are striving to make a difference.
Some may be succeeding on a grand scale while others are struggling to find
their way. So what can you do to help your leader, and yourself, in the
process? One of the first things I’d suggest you do is this: take your leader down
his or her pedestal. Here’s why.
It’s all
about perspective. Let’s examine this from your leader’s perspective. If you
are worshipping your leader then he or she has two primary concerns they
wrestle with, (1) your motives and (2) your loyalty. If you are worshipping
your leader and are always kissing-up to them they will always wonder why. In
addition, they tie your loyalty to their tenure and not much more.
Now let’s
examine things from a different perspective and look inward. So long as you
keep your leader on a pedestal you will have two primary conflicts to wrestle
with, (1) freely speaking the truth out of fear of repercussion, and (2) the
appearance of misplaced priorities. Each struggle has ramifications and if they
are holding you back then your pedestal is your greatest obstacle moving
forward.
When you
take your leader(s) down from the pedestal it opens up a whole new realm of
possibilities. Here’s how you can do it and why it matters.
Embrace their humanity
What most
leaders want you to know is that they are surprisingly human. They have the
same struggles, concerns, hopes and dreams as everyone else in the office.
Just like you, your leader is
not perfect and makes mistakes. Instead of being overly critical perhaps you
can be a little more forgiving. So long as you idolize your leader because of
their position and not as a person then you fail to see what is most important
to them. At the end of the day they’d rather not be above you, they would
prefer to be beside you.
Welcome authenticity
Once you
take your leader(s) down from the pedestal then authenticity and transparency
can begin. So long as you look at your leader through rose-colored glasses then
it’s hard to move forward in a meaningful way. Open and honest working
relationships include the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s a natural
by-product of being human. What makes you an adult is the way you work through
the difficult times and come out on the other side with something to celebrate.
An authentic leader will respect you more if you idolize them less.
Build community
Once you
embrace the humanity of your leader(s) and welcome authenticity then building
community is the reward. Most leaders want to build a team of committed and
like-minded people who share the same vision and will work passionately to get
there. So long as your leader is on a pedestal being idolized, or in a
worse-case scenario – feared, then community will suffer. Your collective
strengths and weaknesses form a powerful combination of all the skills you need
to do great things. But it won’t happen until shoulder to shoulder you are
working together in community as a team.
Taking your
leader down from the pedestal is not about abolishing lines of authority or
diminishing your respect. Ultimately, it’s about how to move out of an “idol”
status with your leader to something more beneficial.
What do you
say?
©2015 Doug
Dickerson
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